The words we say to ourselves have a powerful impact on our emotions, thoughts, and behaviors. Our words can bring us down or uplift us, so it is very important to speak to ourselves in empowering ways.

Writing Invisible Wounds was a deeply profound, spiritual experience, and one that I will never forget. After 4 ½ years of abuse I was at incredibly low ebb…

The most effective way we can protect ourselves from abuse is to ensure we are very clear about what behaviors cross the line. This is not as simple as it sounds.

All couples have power struggles and disagreements at times, but the abusive relationship is characterized by inequality, unfairness, control and unkindness.

If our partner is repeatedly using destructive behavior against us it is almost inevitable that we are changed by this experience and these changes can be far-reaching.

When are we struggling in a destructive relationship the most pressing question is often: “Will he change?” This is a vital question because our future is impacted so much by the answer.

Occasional clashes and conflicts between couples are inevitable. However, when this conflict is one-sided and our partner’s behavior is demeaning and hurtful it is time to stop and take stock.

Anger, acted out destructively, can be one of the most destructive emotions in a relationship. Angry outbursts can be frightening and distressing to live with.