28 Beliefs An Abusive Partner is Likely to Hold
We view and interpret our world through our belief systems. Our beliefs drive behaviour, whether it is respectful or abusive.
We do things because these actions fit with our beliefs and worldview. We believe the actions are desirable, justified, or necessary, or for other reasons.
So what are the beliefs that may be driving a partner’s disrespectful, selfish, controlling, narcissistic behaviours?
Here is a list of 28 beliefs that are often held by a narcissistic partner who is using abusive behaviour:
1. I am a special and superior person.
2. I can do what I like.
3. Other people should cater to my needs and wants.
4. I’m in charge because I know best.
5. I will do whatever I want because I can.
6. Other people don't matter.
7. I deserve special treatment.
8. If people don't give me what I want, then the pain I inflict is their own fault.
9. I don't trust anyone.
10. Other people should do as I say.
11. If someone says ‘no’ to me, they deserve to pay.
12. I am far cleverer than other people.
13. Rules don't apply to me.
14. Other people are to blame for any problems
15. People like and admire me.
16. I am top dog, so I call the shots.
17. Everything is all about me: my life, my wellbeing and what I want.
18. I deserve adoration and love.
19. I am entitled to get what I want.
20. If other people are suffering it serves them right for crossing me.
21. People are here to please me. If they don’t I will make them sorry.
22. Whatever nasty things I do, other people deserve them.
23. I'm entitled to get what I want.
24. If I’m upset, I have the right to express this in any way I like.
25. What other people think, and feel, doesn’t matter.
26. People are stupid. It's easy to fool them.
27. If people don’t do as I tell them it's an outrage.
28. Other people’s suffering is irrelevant. They get what they deserve.
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